A few moments ago, I wrote about the problems that occur when a writer allows his Self-Editor to step in too soon during the writing process. A few days ago, I wrote about Fear. Allow me to share what Barbara de Angelis says about Fear. I believe that you will see how Your Self-Editor can make you Afraid to Write.
“Imagine that you had a person in your life who followed you around twenty-four hours a day, filling you with anxiety, destroying your confidence, and discouraging you from doing the things that you wanted to do. Every time you were about to make a change or take a risk, the person would say, ‘I wouldn’t do that if I were you. What if you fail? What if you get hurt? All kinds of things might happen if you go in that direction.’ Imagine that before each conversation you had with friends, family, or loved ones, the person would pull you aside and caution you. ‘If you open up, you might get rejected. Watch what you say! Don’t trust anyone! . . . ” Barbara De Angelis
Isn’t this exactly what happens, as soon as your Self-Editor steps into the writing process?
Fear is like an emotional roommate that lives with you day and night.
“It’s your fear. Fear is like an emotional roommate that lives with you day and night. It talks to you, manipulates you, and tries to convince you to avoid doing or expressing anything that may cause you any kind of discomfort or involve any sort of risk. It says, ‘You can’t’ . . . and ‘You shouldn’t.,’ and it eats away at your confidence and your self-esteem. It tells you not to act, not to reach out, not to try, not to trust, not to move. It steals the life right out from under you. . . .” Barbara De Angelis
Fear is one of your most powerful inner enemies. It is a force that can sabotage your happiness.
“Fear is one of your most powerful inner enemies. It is a force that can sabotage your happiness. How does fear do that? It keeps you stuck in what’s not working. It prevents you from growing. It keeps separation between you and other people. It talks you out of your dreams. It keeps you stagnant, frozen, unable to become all you were meant to be. . . .” Barbara De Angelis
Someone commented on my previous post about the Self-Editor, saying that all too often, she has confused her writer with her Self-Editor. I responded that all of us have done that. I am also a painter, and the Self-Editor loves to control that arena, too. I’ll say it again:Your Self-Editor is a writer’s worst enemy. As Barbara De Angelis said, “It keeps you stuck in what’s not working. It prevents you from growing….It keeps you stagnant, frozen, unable to become all you were meant to be….”
Barbara de Angelis was talking about Fear, but she could very well have been talking about my Self-Editor. Here is the best advice I’ll ever give you. Strip the Self-Editor of his power TODAY! Things will not resolve themselves. You have to take back your power and simply write. The longer that you wait to do that, the greater the shackles will grow around you. If you don’t take control of your own right to express yourself, your Self-Editor may soon completely Silence you. He silenced me for many years, and it has taken every bit of my strength to break the chains of my own silence. Don’t make that mistake. “Silence, like a cancer, grows.” – Paul Simon – Sounds of Silence
©Jacki Kellum August 15, 2016