Fear will steal your aliveness…

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“Fear will steal your aliveness–make your courage bigger than your fear.” – Barbara de Angelis
“Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway.” – John Wayne
We have met the enemy and he is us.” – Walt Kelly and Pogo

I read books by Barbara de Angelis 25-years ago when I was going through a very bad divorce and scared of everything.  After 18 years of being the little wife [which followed 22 years of being the little daughter], I was faced with being the very small me.  I had always been creative and had wanted to be an artist; and I had studied to do the same; but the powers in my life discouraged me.  Barbara de Angelis capsulizes the voices that screamed at me.  I still occasionally hear these voices.  Can you identify :

Imagine that you had a person in your life who followed you around twenty-four hours a day, filling you with anxiety, destroying your confidence, and discouraging you from doing the things that you really wanted to do.  Every time you were about to make a change or take a risk, the person would say, ‘I wouldn’t do that if I were you.  What if you fail? What if you get hurt?  All kinds of things might happen if you go in that direction.’  Imagine that before each conversation you had with friends, family, or loved ones, the  person would pull you aside and caution you.  ‘If you open up, you might get rejected.  Watch what you say@  Don’t trust anyone! . . .It’s your fear.  Fear is like an emotional roommate that lives with you day and night.  It talks to you, manipulates you, and ties to convince you to avoid doing or expressing anything that may cause you any kind of discomfort or involve any sort of risk.. It says, ‘You can’t’ . . . and ‘You shouldn’t.,’ and it eats away at your confidence and your self-esteem.  It tells you not to act, not to reach out, not to try, not to trust, not to move.  It steals the life right out from under you. . . . Fear is one of your most powerful inner enemies.  It is a force that can sabotage your happiness.  How does fear do that?  It keeps you stuck in what’s not working.  It prevents you from growing.  It keeps separation between you and other people.  It talks you out of your dreams.  It keeps you stagnant, frozen, unable to become all you were meant to be. . . . It is fear that keeps us standing on the cliff when we know that we need to leap to the other side.  But fear does more than just hold you back–it steals your aliveness, your passion, your freedom by shutting down your heart. . . .The extent to which you allow fear to control your life is the extent to which you are living as a prisoner.” – Barbara de Angelis – Secrets About Life Every Woman Should Know, [pgs. 151-53]

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe


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